Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life 
by Emily Nagoski
What if the biggest obstacle to great sex isn’t technique, but the myths we’ve been taught about our bodies?
 
In Come as You Are, sex educator and researcher Emily Nagoski breaks down the science of desire, arousal, and pleasure in a way that is approachable, empowering, and deeply reassuring. Drawing from research in psychology and neuroscience, the book explains how sexuality works in the brain and why everyone’s experience of desire is unique.
 
At the heart of the book is a simple but powerful message: you’re not broken. Understanding how stress, context, and cultural messages affect desire can help people create more satisfying and authentic sexual experiences.
 
Inside you will explore:
The “accelerator and brakes” model of sexual response
The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
How stress, mood, and environment affect arousal
Body image, shame, and cultural messages about sexuality
Practical ways to build a more fulfilling sex life
Science-based, compassionate, and sex-positive, Come as You Are has become a modern classic for anyone looking to better understand their body, their desire, and their pleasure.
 
Perfect for:
✨ Readers curious about the science of sexuality
✨ People navigating desire differences in relationships
✨ Anyone unpacking shame or confusion around sex
✨ Fans of research-based, sex-positive education 📖